"I put a very high premium on honesty. What I learned from (my father`s) death is that if you don`t accept your sexuality, it will kill you." -- Cosmopolitan magazine, May 1997
I`m always honest, whether I`m in the limelight or not.
I`ve always kind of gone with my heart.
And as a child, we have such a wonderful thing as children, that we can just make the best of everything, and say, Well, this must be what everybody else is experiencing, and I`ve got to make the best of it. You don`t know that it`s not good until you witness something that it seems better.
Are we changing the idea of what beauty is? Let`s hope so. I`m not the typical Hollywood beauty. Let`s hope we`re looking at the insides of people a little more.
It`s my job, to create a fantasy.
We do not fall in love with the package of the person, we fall in love with the inside of a person.
It`s important to talk about loving yourself and looking at your tragedies and the stuff that makes you grow.
I`m very grateful for the platform that I`ve had in my life to speak out about the things I care about.
When I was with Ellen, I was telling people, If you come out, it`s gonna be better for you. But I honestly don`t know that.
It gets really tricky giving advice. The older I get, the less advice I give.
I put myself on the line with my truth and my sexuality. That is my choice. My choice.
He never admitted anything, even on his deathbed. He was a deluded liar. If it weren`t for my father, I don`t think I would be so open. So that`s a huge blessing.
I don`t belong to the straights now - they didn`t get me back.
I was raised to pretend.
I`m one of those people who was taught not to ruffle any feathers. Of course, I have no problem ruffling feathers.
Are people angry with me? Sure, anything you do in your life, people are going to be angry at you.
I told my mother at about the seventh year of therapy that I had been abused sexually by my father, and she hung up the phone on me.
To have gone through so much work to heal myself and have my mother not acknowledge in any way that she was sorry for what had happened to me, broke my heart.
Before, I just spewed whatever it was I thought about everything. I tend to be more contemplative now.
I searched so hard for a part that was so complex.
When you are coming out, you say it`s for you. But when everybody says it`s not OK, it becomes about that rather than about you. It disappointed me.
I believe I went through a divorce. My relationship with Ellen is no less significant as a marriage than my relationship to Coley.
The decisions that Ellen made on her show were between her and her producers. I supported her decisions. I was there to hug her when she got home.
For me to stay healthy in a relationship, the individuals have to nurture themselves.
I have been very clear to everybody that just because I`m getting married does not mean I call myself a straight.
I was a bit of a big mouth my whole life. I`m a person who expresses themselves with a lot of openness.
I do not believe that I fell in love with a woman because I was abused.
And for anyone who ever thought that Ellen and I broke it off because of sexuality, you couldn`t be more mistaken. And for anyone who thought my mother`s prayers had anything to do with me marrying a man, forget it.